What if Couples Therapy Ultimately Leads to Divorce?
As couples’ therapists, we sometimes work with parents who worry about how a separation would affect their children. Fearful that a divorce would somehow ruin their children’s lives, they agonize over whether they should stay together for the sake of their kids. There’s no easy answer…
A Simple Way To Avoid Arguments With Your Partner
As relationship therapists, we often see this scenario: One partner brings up a problem, hoping to resolve it. The other partner interprets that as a personal attack…
Is It Okay To Date Older/Younger Men? A Therapist Weighs In
If there’s a new man in your life, you may be wondering whether he’s “the one”—or whether you’ll just end up getting hurt. You might also wonder whether friends and family will like him and whether he can help you accomplish your relationship goals…
Dealing With Relationship Conflict From Infertility
One in eight couples struggles to conceive, but that still means most people have no idea what infertility feels like…
Dating Apps: Worth It Or A Waste Of Time During A Pandemic?
According to Fortune magazine, the use of dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, and OkCupid has surged during the pandemic. It’s easy to imagine why people would look for ways to curb the loneliness that has run rampant during the pandemic; the social isolation that…
What Is Secure Attachment? Debunking 5 Common Myths
Attachment styles are a hot topic and for good reason. A person’s attachment style—developed in childhood—can affect everything from how they communicate to what qualities they look for…
How To Overcome Loneliness During The Pandemic
When COVID-19 appeared in the spring of 2020, many people hoped it would be over in a few months. Few relished the idea of shutting themselves up into apartments and putting their social lives…
Disorganized Attachment Style: Common Pitfalls That Reveal the Problem
Early childhood relationships can impact our way of experiencing all relationships thereafter. If you notice yourself going hot and cold in relationships, even when your partner is consistent, you may have developed a disorganized attachment.
The 4 Attachment Types and How They Impact Your Relationships
Have you ever felt like you’re repeating the same relationship over and over again? Don’t worry, you aren’t doomed to repeat the past forever but change starts with an understanding of what your attachment style is and how it impacts your relationships.
Are You Bringing More to the Table Than Your Date? – 5 Clues That You’re Dating “Down”
You are a smart, successful person. Therefore, you shouldn’t sell yourself short when it comes to dating. How can you strike the right balance between non-judgmental dating and settling by “dating down”?
Featured in Romper: 7 Topics To Avoid In The First Year Of A Relationship
This article is an endeavor to help those who are trying to develop healthy relationships, and are in those awkward first 12 months where what to say and what NOT to say can be confusing.
Featured in Bustle: 11 Seemingly Innocent Habits That Can Sabotage A New Relationship Before It Starts
The website Bustle has some fun articles, everything from pop culture to parenthood, as they say. When I contribute to articles for websites like Bustle, I love the opportunity to provide impactful tidbits that may help to improve even just one reader's relationship. In this recent article…
Featured in Romper: 7 Signs That Your Easy-Going Partner Actually Doesn't Care Enough
I really enjoy contributing to quick-read articles that might give someone just a hint of an idea about how to do things differently and, hopefully, more effectively…
Featured in Martha Stewart Weddings: Should You Comment On Your Partner's Bachelor(ette) Party Plans?
Oy. This is a touchy subject. You are madly in love with your betrothed and ready to walk down the aisle. Plans are underway for the perfect wedding. Suddenly, you learn that your partner has planned @#$%* for their bachelor(ette) party…
Featured in Bravo: When Is It OK to Complain to Your Friends About Your Relationship Drama?
While they often focus their programming on the lighter side of life, the Bravo network (which describes its goal as to "deliver the best in food, fashion, beauty, design and pop culture to the most engaged, upscale and educated audience in cable") also often adds in some really useful information for self and relationship improvement. I'm pleased to have been featured…
Your Partner is Growing… Are You?
Personal growth is not easy, nor are relationships, but what do you do if your partner is growing but you aren't? How can you recognize that you're being left behind in the old reality soon enough to foster your own growth?