As relationship therapists, we are sometimes asked how soon is too soon to start a new relationship post-breakup. A year? Six months? A few weeks?

The answer is different for everyone. Some people might be ready for a new relationship immediately after ending an old one. Others might need months or years to process the grief, anger, and other emotions from their last relationship.

If there are no universal rules to go by, how can you tell whether your so-called rebound has potential or is doomed to failure?

Is it a rebound or love?

No one can answer this question for you. You have to answer it for yourself, and that means asking yourself some tough questions:

Am I usually more comfortable being single or in a relationship?

Many people prefer being in a relationship versus being single, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But that’s not a good reason to rush into a relationship with someone you barely know. If singledom feels uncomfortable, why is that? Exploring that question can help you psychologically prepare for your next relationship.

On the other hand, maybe you love being single. It could be that your last relationship felt too confining, and you’re reluctant to start something serious with anyone new. If that sounds familiar, be careful not to immediately dismiss a new romantic connection as a fling. If you have an avoidant attachment style, it could be hard to admit that you’re falling in love with someone you’ve written off as “just a rebound.”

How long have I known my last relationship was doomed?

One common reason why rebound relationships fail is that they’re contaminated by emotional baggage from a prior relationship. Were you cheated on or broken up with suddenly? Maybe you weren’t ready to give up on the relationship, and you’re struggling to let go. It’s hard to think clearly about a new partner when you’re stuck on your old one.

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